the podie people: Behind the Blogging

Behind the Blogging

Monday, October 8, 2018

I have struggled with how to write this post for a really long time but I just figured it's best to just say what you're feeling and get it out there. How ever this is received I hope that my blogger friends know I love and support them as well and that this is only my personal experience with being online!

So lately I have been getting comments that have made me feel like I am some kind of hot shot blogger which I AM NOT. I have had girls say my life looks so perfect or the dreaded, "what does your husband do" question. Let's just clear the air lol. We are not rich and my husband has a very regular physical labor job here in Washington that pays our bills and not much more! We have learned to live on a very tight budget and I have adapted to making things work on very little, and sometimes I actually prefer it that way! We have struggled over the past few years of building our family and finances but it has also taught me so much about what we want in life, what matters most to us, and what we can do without. I am actually a bit of a minimalist and we live in a small little house. I pride myself on being simple, always finding things on sale, and not needing the latest and greatest everything which I think is rare in the "influencer" community. I try to be respectful of everyones views and budgets when I share things and I think it's important for you to know that. Although I share where I buy things I genuinely am considerate of price and what I think you girls might like as well. That being said, if someone buys something from a link I share I get a little kick back and it makes me so happy that someone liked something I did as much. Truly! And let's be real I make close to nothing so this is all for fun. That is my reality when it comes to blogging.  A tiny bit of money here and there but mostly just fun and a way to be creative after kids go to bed!

I think there's a fine line between being real and sharing too much. My husband is very private so as much as I am an open book and could tell anyone details about our life and family I try to be respectful of my husband and his feelings. Blogging has always just been a side hobby for me which I love to do but I also recognize how important it is to ME to see the real side of the people I follow online and how they really are able to afford things and do as much as I do. Let's be real, no ones life is that perfect from what you see online and it takes a lot of hard work to set things up and to create the beautiful content that these women do and I love the inspo! It's so important to keep in mind that these women are working and doing their best to represent brands and also to provide for their families. So in short, yes these women are being paid and getting sent clothes but they're also working hard and no one said you couldn't do it too! lol. I think there are some instagrammers out there that just share where to buy things and the latest trends and I love them for those reasons but I also appreciate people who share more of their life and give us a glimpse of reality behind instagram. I'm not sure where I fall but I always want to be represented in an honest way and tell you girls how it really is for our family without crossing the lines of privacy. Can we agree sometimes things are TMI?

I want you to know that "instagrammers" struggle too and compare themselves on the daily. It's such a contraditcting thing to be looking at beautiful photos online, trying to be yourself, trying to be confident but then being sold products and clothes like what you have isn't enough. I want you to know that what you have IS ENOUGH. It's okay to buy something off of a recommendation online and it's also okay to get off the app, spend time loving yourself and reminding yourself you don't need anything other than what makes you happy. It's a balance such as everything in life these days but for some reason sometimes we just need to be told this and reminded. Sometimes instagram has given me the tips to save money or the just the pillow I have been looking for! And sometimes it's driven me to a dark hole of comparison and feeling like I will never have or be enough and wondering how these women have all they do. Don't fall for it and don't let yourself miss out on this community either.

With all that being said I shared today on my instagram I am going to be doing a little social media fast. For 10 days I'm getting offline and trying to get back to not being distracted, feeling less than, and trying to keep up with everything. I have been thinking about doing this the last month but after the leaders in the church I grew up going to challenged the women of the church to do it, I knew it was the right time and I would hold myself accountable. I know it doesnt seem like long but for someone who is online every single day and uses it as my hobby it's going to be a challenge for me to stay off. If you feel like doing the same, please do and reach out and tell me about it! I need all the support I can get. I'm really hoping to be less distracted and to get back to what fills my soul. Being with my kids but also gaining clarity and using my spare time to read, be with my husband and get back to some real life hobbies. I should note that I am not depressed or feeling bad about myself lol. I genuinely just need a little break and I think it's the best thing to do what you feel called to do.
Thank you all for following along on social media and my blog it means more to me than you know! See you in 10 ;)