Monday, July 30, 2018

Year of Beckham (1 month)

Monday, July 30, 2018

Year of Beckham (1 month)

1 month with our sweet baby brother has gone by so fast! We have already taken him on his first vacation and being a summer baby we have been on the go and having fun since he was a few days old. He has been so easy going and easy to take around with us and I can't imagine life without him. He has definetly made this summer extra special for us! He let's the boys pick him up and hold him and kiss him like crazy and always is making us laugh with his wide eyed look he always has when he's awake. It's like he's always a little nervous for the next thing his brothers will do and it's so funny. At one month old:

- wearing size 0-3 and size 1 diapers (no more newborn!)
- sleeps about 4 hours at a time and nurses straight back to sleep
- doesn't like the dark in his carseat!
- likes music and his brothers singing songs to him
- given us 2 genuine smiles!
- over 10 lbs and holds his head up so well
- loves his head rubbed and getting his hair washed
- hair has lightened so much and some people think it looks red!
- sleeps best in bed with mom and dad or being carried

Baby B we love you so much. You are the perfect addition to our family and I love being able to document your life and what makes you so special and unique. As a mom to 3 boys I am always surprised at how different all of you have been even since birth. I hope you know how complete you make my mama heart and how I don't take these days/weeks for granted. As your little personality starts to bloom and grow I can't wait to see what kind of special soul you will be and what you will teach me about life and motherhood.
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Thursday, July 19, 2018

Nordstrom Anniversary Sale Picks!

Thursday, July 19, 2018

Nordstrom Anniversary Sale Picks!

I'm sure by now if you follow any bloggers you are sick and tired of hearing about the Nordstrom sale, BUT I couldn't let this week go by without sharing my favorite picks and some things I have my eye on. The sale goes public tonight at midnight so anyone can shop now and I wanted to give you some ideas of what is part of the sale! (ALSO INCLUDED MATERNITY ITEMS!)
 In my opinion it's not the best year ever - but I actually did get a few cute things I needed. You can't go wrong with a pair of booties and a leather jacket for fall and I absolutely need some new jeans that aren't maternity. I hope you guys get a little inspo from this post and are able to find a few cute things you like! I kept everything around $100 so it's budget friendly and all things I personally would wear or plan on getting myself. 

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Life Lately

Life Lately

TIME IS A THIEF! I can't believe our baby Beck is already 3 weeks old as of yesterday and the summer is half over. I feel like I blinked and the last month has just flashed before our eyes. Having a baby at the beginning of summer is pretty fun and I love that the boys are both home with me all day and get to share the whole summer with us and their new baby sibling. It has been so fun (and tiring) adjusting to a family of 5! Krew has been busy playing at grandparents and friends here and there, Dash has been my little sidekick and such a sweet and helpful big brother, and I've been nursing or changing diapers constantly in between the constant demands of everyday mom life. I secretly love that the boys are staying up late every night and sleeping in everyday. All 3 of the boys are waking up between 9-10am and it has been glorious and reminds me of all my summers as a kid sleeping in and then heading out to play again. 
Although I did just have a baby 3 weeks ago I surprisingly have felt so great and ready to go! I kept having to remind myself to take it easy but really I am not trying to impress anyone I have just felt so good and good about getting out and about with the kids too. I am good about knowing my limits so it's only been a couple hours a day if that, that I am getting out. So far we have gone on a date night, to the movies, costco a couple times, shopping, Target, doctor's office, grandparents house every weekend, parks, a baby shower. Man life just goes on and I can't believe how busy we've been with our 3rd baby haha. I don't think I left the house for weeks when I had Krew.
It has been so nice to soak up every moment with Beck and also be able to do fun things with my older boys and to be able to entertain them this summer while grandparents and dad are at work. Every week since Beck was born has been a little bit easier and a little bit harder. 3 kids is no joke! I feel like I get a good routine down and then one of them throws me through a loop, ha! I think thats true for parenting in general. Every morning the boys love to come jump on my bed and wake Beck up and if I haven't had a chance to get out of bed and get myself pulled together a little bit, then I basically spend the next few hours trying to feed and clothe all of us and get out of the house before its too hot or I am to tired.

We have gone to the splash pad, parks, gyms, friends house and next week we leave for Utah (with my parents) for some more summer fun. We love visiting friends/family there and can not wait to go. I grew up next to an amusement park there (Lagoon) and I really hope we get to take the kids this time and I get to show my little family a piece of my childhood there. Utah is one of my favorite places and we are so excited to go! We will be there for a week and plan on swimming everyday (since there is no outdoor pools here, lame)  and eating all the Utah treats.

So many of my girlfriends are finally having babies and it makes me so happy! I think I have gone to 4 baby showers in the last 2 months! This summer I think we have 2 weddings to go to and then we are ending summer with a quick trip to Portland, OR and then Cannon Beach, OR. It's sort of become a summer tradition the last couple years that we go with Dylan's parents to Cannon Beach and we love ending the summer there with them. If you go, make sure and eat at Pelican Brewery in Cannon Beach!
I am working on getting back into regular blogging and at the end of summer will start training again with lashes! If any of you girls wants to be a model please let me know I will be looking for girls to practice on and then offering extremely discounted prices while I build my skill and clientele. Keep you posted! Also -I hope that you are all making the best of your summer and enjoying your friends and family. It's so easy to fall into the trap of comparison when everyone is showing off the highlights of their summer and their vacations and boats and new swim suits. But I promise there's a bunch of us without all those things sitting at home with their kids cleaning messes and trying to make it through another hot day with nothing but popsicles and a sprinkler in the yard. You're not alone and you are just as cool, don't forget it and make the best of this amazing weather and go get yourself a coffee or iced drink and make today a good one. Love you girls! XO 

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Thursday, July 12, 2018

First week with baby Beck + Tips for Adding a new baby

Thursday, July 12, 2018

First week with baby Beck + Tips for Adding a new baby

Week 1 has completely flown by! I always tell friends and family, the week before you have a baby is the longest of your life and the week after you have a baby is the fastest. It's so bittersweet! I have felt fantastic after this birth and have even been out of the house multiple times for a little run to Target or the park with the kids. Dylan went back to work after the 4th of July on Thursday and so I have officially had 2 days on my own with all 3 kiddos and I'm actually so relieved to say it went well. I am for sure one of those moms who always worries if things will go right and if I'm doing all I can and it can be overwhelming to myself. I'm grateful I have a mom who keeps me in check and reminds me that I'm not unique and every other woman on the planet that has had more than 1 kid has survived it and made it work haha. Now I am not trying to sugar coat it and say it's been butterflies and rainbows, the bigger kids have absolutely pushed my buttons, started fighting over random toys, and Dash has even picked up the baby and put him on the floor and tried to feed him popsicles everyday but you know I've learned it's really okay and to just roll with it! I've made a point of giving all my kids individual attention throughout the day whether it's a bed time story, making a train track, or even just a conversation with eye contact and a hug and kiss, it doesn't take much to make sure everyone feels love, and honestly since having Beckham my heart has only tripled in size. Cheesy but so true! I am completely exhausted but at the end of the night when kids are in bed and I've gotten Beck to sleep I can take a deep breath and realize how incredibly blessed I am. (And watch Netflix alone and have my own snacks!!)
Everyday we have gotten more adjusted to his routine, breast feeding, sleeping, and getting out a little bit but I will say by day 5 I hit a wall with exhaustion and the bigger kids had reached a peak of obnoxiousness and fighting. It's only been a week and half but I have realized and applied so much into this new life with 3 and I think it's worked well for us. Some days have been hard and others a breeze because grandparents have taken the kids for a few hours to give me a break which is so awesome.

I love that other moms and I can talk online about motherhood and what works and how we can ask eachother for advice so I wanted to share some here. It might not be what you think though. I tried not to be too specific because the thing I know more than anything, is that every family and child is different so not everything will work the same for every family. You really have to find what works and know what's best for your family BUT there is a few things that I feel are very important for every mama to know. Here's a few things that have made the transition of a 3rd child relatively easy for us..

1. Let bigger kid(s) be as involved as they'd like to be.
Don't force them to be excited or involved, let them come to you. I think it's also important that you don't keep baby from them. Letting your bigger kids know you trust them and want their help will make them feel so important. It's easy to be scared and not let toddlers hold the new baby but if they can sit on the couch or a safe place and you let them hold baby by themselves they will feel so proud. I try not to say "be quiet the baby is sleeping!" and let them be themselves. If I really want baby to sleep I'll go put him in my room with the door shut and keep the bigger kids distracted but often they like to sneak in and kiss him, which sometimes gives me anxiety because they wake him up but I know these days are numbered and so special and I feel so blessed that they love their little brother and don't resent him.

2. Keep A ROUTINE for your toddler or older kids
Even with summer here it's been so important for my kids to maintain some sort of routine. We have maintained their regular bath time, story, drinks and sleeping in their own beds every night since Beck was born. Dylan and I have sometimes taken turns doing bed time and I think it's really important that I put the baby down to go have some one on one time with my bigger boys before they go to bed. They see me with the baby all day!

3. Lower your expectations and learn to just roll with it
I think we as moms worry about so much and have this idea in our heads of what life is "supposed to be" and "look like". The reality is that's just not true, for ANYONE. Every family is different and no story is the same and each child of yours WILL be different and their own individual. I worried how Dash would respond and honestly prepared for the worst. I was ready for hitting/smacking/regression in the progress we've made and was prepared to endure it and work with him through it. Luckily it's been the total opposite which has made my mama heart so happy but I've also not pushed my toddler either. Potty training is going slow (I'm lazy) and there is times where it literally takes me hours to get out of the house, but it's just a short phase of life and everyone adjusts no matter if it's your first baby or 5th. Don't set the bar high and yourself up for failure. Have low expectations and just go with it and you'll be 10x less stressed and more happy.

4. Know what works for YOUR kids and family
One of the most important things I could stress is being in tune with your family and already existing children. The baby will adapt to your family, what's important is knowing YOUR own boundaries and your kids' too. If you know your toddler still needs a nap every day, stick to that. If you know you're going to get stressed at the grocery store with 3 kids, wait till you can go alone or have someone help with the kids. It's okay to not be able to do it all and it's okay for certain things to be harder for your kids. So many people gave me advice to make my husband help at night but truthfully I like to let him sleep! It's so much easier for me to nurse and rock the baby back to sleep on my own than wake my husband and try to make things "fair" when he's the one getting up for work at 430am. I also know that I need to get out of the house earlier in the day or I start to feel stuck and bored. Some people are slower going and would like to be out during the afternoon. Just do what works for you and don't worry about accomodating anyone other than your own kiddos during this time with a new one.

5. Don't put stress on older kids to perform or "be good."
This one may be more of an opinion but I think it makes perfect sense. It's easy to get overwhelmed and mad because you just want them to "be good".... don't let their tantrums upset you and get you to react negatively. Toddlers will see you busy with the baby and act out or try to get away with things to either get your attention or see what they can get away with. PUT THE BABY DOWN and give them that attention they need, if possible. If they regress with their potty training, don't be disappointed. Just get back on the routine and keep encouraging and being supportive and consistent with them. So often we want kids to always be nice and happy and obedient when we ourselves as adults don't always have our best manners or are in the best mood! Especially when a new baby comes home I think it's perfectly normal for kids to have more energy and excitement which comes across as obnoxious and wild. Although they don't need to be out of control I think it's so important to be lenient on them and to not get to upset. Instead of saying "be good" I like to tell my boys can you be "extra helpful and use our listening ears today?" It seems to be received a lot better and they usually like to try and accept the challenge.

There's probably a million things that moms could say for advice on adding a baby to the family but truthfully you just have to find what works for YOU and stick to that. The most important thing I could tell you is that you WILL adjust and you will never regret having another little one. The only thing we can control is ourselves as the adult so keep yourself in check and remember to take a deep breath or put yourself in a little time out when things get rough at home. I have 3 kiddos in a 2 bedroom duplex with no fenced back yard so I know what it's like to feel trapped and like kids are bouncing off the walls! I've had to put everyone in the stroller for a walk or put everyone in the car to go get myself a drink just to have a few minutes of them strapped in car seats haha. As a mom you just learn what works and take everyday one step at a time. You got this mama!!!

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Monday, July 2, 2018

Beckham Brees: Birth Story

Monday, July 2, 2018

Beckham Brees: Birth Story

8lb 12oz - 21.5 in

I can't believe that through 3 babies and all the time I have blogged over the years that this will be my first official birth story I share. How cool! I love reading people's birth stories and even spent the later part of all of my pregnancies watching videos and vlogs of births online. Personally I feel like birth is so beautiful and amazing. I feel in awe that the human body is able to do it and heal itself after wards. I have had 3 different birth experiences and each has been so incredibly special to me and a day that I NEVER will forget. Here is the story of our 3rd son's arrival!

Wednesday June 27th I was officially a week and a half "over due" and at my emotional limit for waiting for this surprise baby. Tuesday night I finally broke down and cried at my moms house! My body felt so sore I hadn't been sleeping for weeks and I just felt so much more tired and heavy with each day. I kept waking up every morning thinking this could be the day and had to emotionally psych myself up and then be let down. Almost 2 weeks of emotional roller coaster I almost felt like he would never come! I went to bed that night thinking okay tomorrow HAS to be THE day.

I woke up around 2 am with contractions. I decided to start tracking them on my app and to see how far apart and frequent they were as my family all slept. I labored in bed, ate a bowl of cereal, walked around, bounced on the ball and tracked them at about 10 minutes apart until Dylan's alarm for work went off at 5am. He woke up and we started talking about whether or not he should go to work. I had sent him to work when I had Dash and he had to come home a few hours later, so after calling my midwife we decided he should stay home at this point. Things picked up so quickly I am so glad he stayed because by 6am my contractions were every 3 minutes and I had to call my midwife back and tell her I think this is the real deal. I had been texting my mom through the morning so by 6am I told her "okay I am hurtin, I think it's time to come over." Within 15 minutes my midwife, her daughter who is her assistant, my mom, step dad, and sister were all over at the house and started setting up the birth pool. (I have talked about this before but I had a planned home birth so this was all part of the routine.)

As soon as my midwife arrived they started setting up and she did a cervix check on me. Effaced and at a 6! By 7am the pool was almost ready, my sister was taking pictures, my mom and Dylan supporting me through contractions and my step dad on duty for the boys. I basically had my head on the couch and couldn't get up because the contractions were coming pretty quickly. Krew and Dash were still asleep in their room and I wasn't sure what time they would wake up and how far along I would be so I was so grateful to have my step dad there for support and help with the boys.

I got into the pool by 730am and things really started to pick up. The warm water really helps with the contractions and although I was hot and sweating it really helped slightly dull that deep intense pain. I needed cold wash cloths on my head and neck and was sipping water and could not move from my hands and knees. It was super relaxing but made my whole body turn beet red haha. (Super common for natural birthing moms to stay in this position and deliver this way.)

At around 8am I was at an 8 and we decided to break my water to get things going and try to have the baby just before the boys would be waking up. To my surprise they woke up around 830am and came out of their room. I felt a little anxious at first because I was at the point that I couldn't really talk and baby was about to come and they wanted to come say hi, but I am so glad that they did. Krew is a rock star and was totally fine but I was so worried about how Dash would react. Thankfully he was like "Hi mama hi mama!" He was kind of confused and excited but not scared. Things were super intense so my dad took Dash for a little walk around the house to keep him preoccupied because at that point I was head down ready to have a baby and making some intense sounds haha.

Baby boy was born quickly after that at 846am! ( about 20 minutes after boys woke up) Dylan was able to "catch" him with the help of our amazing midwife and Krew was able to watch his 2nd brother be born. Beckham kind of shot out with open arms and legs and everyone was so excited and yelled "it's a boy!!" I was able to turn over and Dylan handed him to me. My dad brought Dashy in right after that and it was so funny he came over to the pool and was like "EWW!" He thought it was so funny to say Ew but was so excited there was a new baby and gave me a high five haha. I was so happy the boys were both there and that they handled it so well. Home birth is really laid back and has such a good vibe I think if you're comfortable with it it's an amazing experience for kids and families to watch.

After Dylan cut the cord he was able to take baby boy over to the couch and do skin to skin with him and the big boys as I got help out of the pool and to our bedroom. All my post partum care is done right there at home as well. (beds are lined with waterproof liners and extra sheets and pads as well) I got into bed and immediately got warm blankets placed on me and Dylan and the boys all came in and got on the bed with me. Baby boy weighed 8lbs 12oz  and 21.5 inches, exactly in the middle of both his brothers' weights! 14 is our lucky number so Dylan was ecstatic when his head and chest measurements were 14.5 inches. Proud daddy! Dylan and Krew were able to put his first diaper on and little jammies  and then I was able to nurse him in bed right away.

By noon everything was picked up and we were settled in our room admiring our sweet babe and welcoming the grandparents to come see him. It was probably my "easiest" and quickest birth and I am so so happy with our experience as a family and how truly special it was. I have talked about this before but my midwife has made the biggest difference in the world for us and Dylan and I agree we don't know what we would do without her. She has taken the absolute best care of our family and we trust her with anything. She has helped me bring 2 babies earth side naturally at home with no tearing and an amazing recovery and we are just so grateful for such a great experience and amazing care. We love you Ann!

I have felt so great recovering from this birth. Beckham is just the sweetest baby boy and has done so well with nursing and his brothers loving all over him. We still can't believe we have 3 healthy beautiful boys it's so awesome! The last few days have flown by and I still feel kind of in that newborn haze but it's such a blessing and I just want to cherish every minute because with each baby I have had I recognize how important and special these days are. Im not even bitter to be up all night with this babe because I am truly just so grateful to have him. Dylan is still home till later in the week and has been a super hero dad. He's been busy getting the boys out of the house, doing dishes, laundry, and helping with baby boy. I am so lucky to have him and my mom around their love and support has been everything.

My midwife Ann, and her daughter who assists her, Alyssa. 

Thank you so much for all your sweet and kind words about our baby boy. Sharing this is deeply personal and I debated sharing some of these photos but I think it's something to be really proud of and to help other women know that you can have an amazing birth experience and have a lot of control over how it goes. I wouldn't ever say the way I chose to birth is the only right way but I love to share how it doesn't have to be scary and how with the right care provider it can feel like something you look forward to and feel completely educated about. A lot of women have been really curious and asked me more about natural birth and the safety of delivering at home.  I love to talk about this because a little education on this topic changed my entire views of birth and labor and ultimately the way Dylan and I chose to bring our babies to the world. Please feel free to ask any questions about it! I'm so grateful that I am a low risk and full term carrying mom which made it possible for me to have this type of experience and for the amazing care of my midwife. Having a baby is hands down the best thing I've experienced in my life.

*About his name: We only had the name Beckham in mind for if we had a boy. We really had the hardest time coming up with boy names that felt right or went with our family. There were many I liked but felt like didn't fit. Once he was born it just stuck and we never really had any other name options! We kind of worried about it being too trendy but we felt the nick name "Beck"would be perfect with "Krew" and "Dash". His middle name is 100% named after Drew Brees and yes Dylan picked that and was super proud haha. 

*All photos were taken by my awesome little sister Shelby!

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